No Regret Decision Making
In light of all that is going on in the world today, I felt this post would be appropriate. We are all experiencing a world-wide hiatus and put into situations where we have to make difficult decisions. Maybe you have to decide which bills to pay or whether or not you should wear a mask when you go to the store. These decisions are tough. And you might be wondering which decision is the right one.
Hopefully, this oldie but goodie will help you out.
Whether you are deciding on what to wear or what next step to take in your life, making decisions can be paralyzing. What I hear most often from my clients is that they are afraid of making the wrong decision (cue anxiety). When you are stressed and distracted, your focus is divided. You're focused on thinking about what might happen.
You make decisions all day long, but most of the decisions you're making aren't conscious decisions. Most of the time, making a decision is based on your past, your fears, worries, and doubts. When you go to make a decision, you filter it through the past. You unconsciously compare what you know, the feelings you might have if it does or doesn't work out the way you want it, and your memories, especially those that are emotionally charged. You think you are choosing in the moment when in actuality it is your past choosing for you.
How do you make the best decisions possible? Making good decisions requires having access to as much information as you can. Stressed out and being distracted limits your access to that information. When you are stress-free and aware, you can see the possibilities available to you, and you can make conscious decisions based on the best information available to you.
Steps to making a decision:
1. Identify the decision
2. Gather relevant information (remember to leave out your past biases, fears, worries, and what-ifs). Gather just the facts.
3. Identify all the possible solutions
4. Go down the road of each choice- 6 months from now. How do you feel about yourself and the situation with each option? Are you honoring yourself?
5. Make the decision based on the outcome from step #4
6. Take action towards the decision you selected in step #5
7. Review your decision from an objective viewpoint. Ask yourself what worked, what didn't work, what did you like about the decision, what could be improved? This is not a step to beat yourself up over the decision. Again, think of yourself as rising over the decision, and you are looking down on it objectively and giving yourself feedback. Remember in everything you do there is a lesson to be learned.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
How have I made decisions in the past?
What information did I have before making that decision?
How have those decisions worked out?
How do I feel about those decisions?
Looking forward, what can I do to improve how I make decisions in my life?
Stay strong! Stay healthy! Stay home!
In grace & gratitude,