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It's Okay To Suffer



I remember when I was a kid, and I would experience hardship or struggle. I would go to my dad to seek his advice. His first response was always "Life isn't a bowl of cherries. If it were it wouldn't be life."


Forest Gump even said it, “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.” Both of them are right.


One minute everything in your life is going “right," and you are happy and the next moment life throws you a sucker punch, and it sends you reeling.


I experienced this very thing last week. My week was going along great. I was getting stuff done, making some progress, and enjoying the ride. Thursday afternoon, I was sitting at my computer doing some research for an upcoming workshop I am putting together when my laptop started to act funny. At that moment, I knew what happened. My computer had gotten a virus. (Insert sucker punch here). I could feel the floor crumbling beneath me. My laptop going down was the last thing I needed. My entire business, no wait, my whole life was on that computer.















What was I going to do?


What do you do?


Here's where the struggle is. It's not what happened to you that sends you reeling, and it's how you are feeling about what happened to you that sends you reeling. There is a misconception we are always to be happy. When it’s not it makes those sucker punches that much more difficult. Those moments can leave you feeling stuck, sad, scared, and searching for answers. You don't know how to recover.


When we experience negative emotions, we react negatively to them.


Of course, this is what happens because we have been conditioned to believe that any sort of negative emotions isn't right. It's okay not to be okay. You are allowed to feel how you feel about anything in your life. Where things go astray at is when you allow those feelings to derail your life. When you sit in those emotions days, weeks, months, or years, you get stuck, and you don't move forward.















It doesn’t matter who you are. It doesn’t matter how rich or poor, how big or small, you are going to experience trials and tribulations in your life. You are going to suffer. And guess what? Suffering is okay. Life is hard. There is no way you can figure it all out. There is no way to hurry past it. Instead, turn towards the suffering. Face the pain head on and then start again, right where you are.















Listen, my friends, it is in that pain and suffering where our character and resilience builds. You have the power to choose how you want to feel about any situation in your life. The work comes in trying to figure that out.





Here are some questions I ask myself:


How am I feeling about _______________?


How do I want to feel about____________?


(Don't lie to yourself here. You can't go from being devastated about something to being happy about it. Instead, find something that is just a little bit more positive than where you are. The example I like to use is this: You can't go from "I hate my body" to "I love my body." Your brain can't understand that. But you can go from "I hate my body" to "My body is strong" or "My body allows me to go to work." See what I mean?


What can I learn from this situation?


What do I want to take away from this experience?


When you experience the trials and tribulations of life, do you struggle to find your way out? Do you find it difficult to walk through the pain and suffering? Let me help you find a new way through life's struggles and create a life that means something to you on your terms.


Send me a message and let's get your free call scheduled. It could change your life!


I would love to hear from you.


Make today amazing!