Challenge Your Assumptions
Time and time again, we find ourselves looking back on things we wish we would have followed through on, but we didn't because our thoughts got the best of us. We impoverish our lives with our mindset.
Last week we learned about limiting beliefs. Remember that limiting beliefs are those beliefs you have about yourself, your identity, the world, other people, situations, and about life in general that hold you back from creating about a life that means something to you on your terms. They stop you from creating the life you want. Click here if you missed last week’s blog.
Assumptions are the second energy block. An assumption is a belief that because something happened in the past, it is automatically going to happen again. Assumptions are more personal than limiting beliefs, and, because of personal experience, more intimately involve you. Therefore, there is more energy or attitude associated with an assumption that a limiting belief.
Assumptions hold you back because, from experience, when you believe you already "know" something won't work for you, you've failed before you've tried. Even if you do try, you might move in a counter-productive direction. When you hold on tight to your assumptions, you miss out on a whole world of possibilities.
Here are some examples of assumptions:
You asked a friend out for coffee, and she said no. You assume that you will be turned down again if you ask someone else.
You apply for a job and don't get it. You assume that if you apply for another job, you won't get that one either.
Assumptions may prevent you from trying again, or more, likely, if you do, because you have negative energy around your experience, you may create “getting turned down” again.
I love what Don Miguel Ruiz warns us about assumptions in The Four Agreements:
The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We invent a whole story that's only true for us, but we believe it. One assumption leads to another assumption; we just to conclusions, and we take our story very personally…We make assumptions; we believe we are right about our assumptions, and then we defend our assumptions…
What are some of the assumptions you make that hold you back?
Take a few minutes to think about that and write them down.
How do you get past these assumptions?
The best way to get past your assumptions is to challenge them. Rather than leaning on your version of the story, get curious about what is going on. Look for other possibilities.
Are you ready to get curious? I know I am.
Remember those assumptions you took a few minutes to list? Here are some follow-up questions to help you challenge those assumptions and get curious.
On a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being not likely and 10 being highly likely, how true is this thought?
What facts do I have to prove this thought is true?
What facts do I have to prove this thought isn’t true?
What are some other possibilities to this assumption?
What is this assumption preventing me from doing?
How is this assumption serving me and my life?
If this assumption didn’t exist at all, what would my life look like?
Challenging your assumptions can be difficult. Your assumptions are based on personal experience, and there are more emotion and energy involved.
What is one thing you know you want to do or create in your life but the limiting beliefs or assumptions you have are preventing you from getting there?
I can show you how to get past the negative thoughts you’ve created and help you get from where you are to where you want to be. It all starts with a call.
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