Even a Steady Boat Rocks
What do you do when what was once okay in your life isn't okay anymore? Your boat gets rocked. Sometimes your boat gets rocked a little, and sometimes well it will shake you to your core. You have to find your new okay.
I had another topic ready for this week's W.O.W Wednesday, but last week my very own boat was rocked a bit, and I was led to share it with you instead.
Most of you know that I have a chocolate lab. Her name is Bella, she will be seven next week and has been kennel trained her entire life. For those of you who may not understand what that means, when we leave our house, she goes into her kennel and stays in there while we’re gone.
She has never had an issue with her kennel. That is until recently. A few weeks ago when we would come home, and the garage door would go up you could hear her barking like a mad woman. And when I let her out she would be panting, ears back, somewhat frantic. Now, I am no dog whisperer but I know excessive panting and ears back is a sign of stress for dogs. I consulted with my dear sister who is a dog whisperer (Bluegrass Pawsittive Dawg Training), and she confirmed that yes she is stressed out and that we need to do something different.
If anyone knows me well, they know that my dog is like a child to me. Knowing that she was stressing out hit me in the heart, and I knew I needed to figure out what was going on. All I could come up with is that she doesn't like the kennel anymore. She will be seven next month, and maybe she's had enough of being in there.
Last week I decided that I was going to start leaving her in my office. She hangs out in there with me most of the day, and in the evening I will find her just lying in there. I did a few short practice runs. First an hour, then two hours. I would come home, and she would be fine. This weekend we had a couple of events that went a little longer and put her to the test. She passed with flying colors. Me, not so much.
See, what was once okay for her wasn't okay for her now, and she found her new okay. She went from liking her kennel to not wanting to be in her kennel to finding a new place that she liked. She’s okay. But what was once okay for me, leaving her in the kennel and feeling she was safe, to not okay, leaving her in the room where she feels safe to still trying to find my new okay. Even this morning as I left to go to CrossFit, I put her into her room and those anxious emotions started showing up. I started praying for peace and gave myself a bit of grace. I know that in time, I will find my new okay.
Last week I shared that fear, anxiety, worry, they are all in the same pile of feelings we all experience. What you and I are anxious about might be different but the feeling is the same. Bella and I had the same feelings of anxiety, but we were anxious about something different.
I share this because I want you to know that even though I am a life coach, I don't have it all figured out. I have a lot of tools at my disposal but let me tell you I don't always use them. I was praying for peace and coaching the heck out of myself this weekend. That's okay, I'm okay. I will get past this.
I want you to know that whatever you’ve got going on in your life right now that’s rocking your boat it will only rock it for a little while. You’ve got this. In time, you will find what is okay again in your life. You will get past this.
Even a steady boat rocks.
You can't have it together all the time. It's okay if you fall apart. Take time to feel what your feeling. Acknowledge it. Accept it. The quicker you do that, the easier it will be for you to move forward. Trust me.
You are strong! You are courageous!
Be the captain of your boat. You've got this!
Along with a lot of prayers here are the questions I used to coach myself:
What are you really stressed about?
What about _____ is stressing you out?
What can you do to shift your perspective about this situation?
What is one small step you can take today to start embracing that new perspective?
Is there something that is rocking your boat and you're not sure how to get past it? I would love to help you find your new okay and create a life that means something to you on your terms. It all starts with a call.
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