Find Your New Normal
During the seasons of your life, for various reasons, you will find your life making a huge shift. These life shifts can be devastating such as a long-term relationship coming to an end, a death of a loved one, or an illness. Or it could be starting a new career, starting school, finishing school, or even just a shift change.
You’ve got your life planned out.
are you prepared to adjust to a life changing event, or a series of events?
Trust me, it doesn’t have to be a big event to be life changing.
I have shared in my past blogs that we relocated from Springfield, MO to Dallas, TX. That was one life changing event for sure. My husband started a new job and just recently got moved to working a night shift. Let’s just say that life as we knew it came to a screeching halt. We have had to completely change the way we do life during this season. It has been an adjustment and we are still working to Find Our New Normal.
What do you do when your life shifts? Whether it’s a disastrous corner or a life path detour?
How do you Find Your New Normal? What do you do to Find Your New Normal?
I want to share with you the steps I am taking RIGHT NOW to Find My New Normal.
One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is AWARENESS! - Donalisa Stinyard
AWARENESS is the foundation for change. It is easy to get caught up in the busyness of life. So much so that you don’t even realize what is going on.
When you have AWARENESS, you have the ability to know “what is.” This means that you can discern what is actually happening from your own minds interpretation of what is going on. This is huge especially when your life is in flux. Having AWARENESS gives you the opportunity respond (consciously choosing an action), rather than react (responding from past history), to what is going on around you.
In my recent experience it took me some time to gain AWARENESS. In the beginning, I was filled with emotions about the situation. I was judging the situation and I was kind of in a tail spin. Then I spent some time with my coach and from there she helped me to take the first step to Find My New Normal through AWARENESS.
It can be difficult to pull yourself out of your situation. To remove your emotions, your ego, and any judgement you have attached to it and focus solely on the facts.
Here is an experiment in self-awareness for you to try.
Close your eyes and sit for a minute. Focus on what is happening around you. Become aware and ask yourself the following questions and write down your answers:
1. What am I feeling physically?
2. What emotions am I experiencing?
3. What thoughts am I having?
When you ask yourself these questions make observations only.
No judgments – No interpretations!
When you experience AWARENESS you observe what is occurring internally. From there you can make a choice about how you want to experience it.
Once you are able to clearly see (AWARENESS) what is, the next step is ACCEPTANCE. When you don’t have ACCEPTANCE you fight “what is.” You may wish that something was different or try to force it to turn out the way you want it to. When you come from a place of ACCEPTANCE you don’t make any judgments (this is good or bad)s. Instead, you simply acknowledge the experience of “what is.”
When you experience ACCEPTANCE, you understanding that sometimes things happen. Life happens. When you acknowledge that things don’t always make sense or sometimes aren’t fair then it helps you stay present in the moment. Again, removing your emotions, your ego and your judgment. ACCEPTANCE that you will Find Your New Normal.
What will help you remember to accept in the moment?
Coming up with a reminder phrase that you can say when you needed it can be very helpful. An example is “I do the best I can; whatever happens, happens.”
If you recognize that you’re not accepting the situation you’re in, what can you do to help yourself come back to acceptance?
In last week’s blog Do You Believe? I shared how you have the power to create the life you want on your terms. Guess what this isn’t any different.
When life throws you lemons, I say, “Make lemonade.”
You have just been handed the opportunity to Find Your New Normal on your terms. In this moment, you can create the life you want on your terms. You may not always have the best choices to choose from but you will always have the
POWER OF CHOICE!
Make a list of all the choices available to you.
Think about the life you want to create. What do you want your new normal to look like?
Given what you know right now, take each one of those choices and think ahead 6 months. How is that choice working out for you?
Make a choice! And know that the choice you make was the best choice given the information you had in that moment.
Give yourself some GRACE and more GRACE! When you find yourself frustrated and overwhelmed give yourself even more GRACE!!!
I think this is the most difficult step in Finding Your New Normal. As you go through the twists and turns of life and work to Find Your New Normal, understand there are going to be growing pains. This is okay! You’re okay!
Gain AWARENESS of “what is”. Find ACCEPTANCE in the situation. Remember you have the POWER OF CHOICE. This includes the power to choose how you feel towards yourself. GRACE as you Find Your New Normal!
Words of Encouragement
Have the twists and turns of life derailed you from your normal life? Do you find yourself walking on shaky ground? I get it. I’ve been there. Shoot, I am there. Use these steps I have shared with you to Find Your New Normal. I promise you it’s right around the corner.
If you’re not sure how to get from where you are to where you want to be, let me help you bridge that gap. Let me help you Find Your New Normal and create the life you want.
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