What I Am Learning About Myself: A Glimpse Into My Whole30 Journey
I am on day 10 into my Whole30 journey. The last 10 days have been insightful and there are 20 more days to go. I am excited for the other opportunities that will present themselves to me in the next 20 days. However, I felt it would be beneficial to pause and take note of what I have learned so far. Each day I am amazed how food influences so many areas of our lives.
We use food as a reward for doing something good. We tell ourselves we have been good all week with our eating so it’s okay to reward ourselves with a guilty pleasure on the weekend. Many of us equate food with family. How about those family dinners where everyone brings their signature dishes to share? Yummy, right?
Some equate food to fun. This weekend my husband wanted to go out to dinner and when he remembered I was on the Whole30 he told me that dinner out wouldn’t be any fun because I couldn’t eat certain things. What? Going out can still be fun while eating within your parameters. What about connecting with each other and having a great conversation?
We did go out. I cannot tell a lie. I did miss the French toast at breakfast. At dinner, I ordered the steak fajitas which were delicious. I didn’t miss the corn or flour tortilla but I did miss partaking in the chips and salsa. But guess what? We still had fun and I didn’t feel like I was on restriction.
My four biggest takeaways!
1. Mindset: At the beginning of this journey I told myself that I wanted to shift my mindset.
Rather than coming from a place of I CAN’T, I wanted to come from a place of CHOICE.
Wow! What a difference this makes. While eating out this weekend I didn’t feel like I was under any kind of restrictions. Instead, each meal I have, I have a choice to eat in a way that honors my goals and fuels my body.
I’d like to challenge you to think about something in your life that could use a mindset shift. How are you currently thinking about it? How would you like to think about it?
2. Freedom in a Protocol: The Whole30 is an eating protocol. It is an official procedure or system on how to eat. Some people may look at this protocol as restrictive. However, for me there is freedom in it. I have shared numerous times through this blog my own personal struggles with eating and weight. In the past, my thought life has been consumed by what I was going to eat, when I was going to eat it, if what I decided to eat was a good or bad choice. It was mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting for me.
I have learned through the process of the Whole30 that when I have a specific protocol for food; what I am going to eat and when, I have FREEDOM!!! Freedom to spend my time thinking about other things besides food. I feel so much better mentally, emotionally, and physically because I am not consumed with thinking about food. I have a specific menu and I make the choice to eat when I am hungry. Not a set time but literally when I am hungry. This lead me to the next thing I learned about myself during this journey.
Where in your life could you find freedom in a protocol? How willing are you to give it a try? What would be different in your life if you did?
3. Structure versus Flexibility: Anyone that knows me well, knows that I love structure and routine. You could literally set a clock to me. LOL! For a long time, I thought being structured was a bad thing and really worked to push myself to be less structured. It has been a battle. But here is what I have learned, structure isn’t a good thing or a bad thing. It’s who I am. I like structure. I thrive on structure. However, as with everything there is balance. Just because you do something the same way or the same time everyday doesn’t mean there isn’t room for something different.
I was in the Army for 20 years. For most of that 20 years, lunch was at 11:30. When I retired in 2009, I continued to eat lunch at 11:30. Everyday! Whether I was hungry or not. If the clock said 11:30, I had lunch. I did the same thing with dinner. I think back to how many times I have eaten in my life just because of the time on the clock. I wasn’t hungry but the clock said it was time. My coach challenged me to step out of that structure and give myself the flexibility to eat when I am hungry. It has been through the Whole30 that I have really experimented with this.
How does structure play a part in your life? How useful would it be for you to give yourself some flexibility? What would be different?
4. FOMO (Fear of missing out): As an additional piece to my Whole30 journey I shared that I was also fasting from Facebook. Let me tell you, day one, was difficult. I experienced FOMO. I remember the first time I picked up my phone to get on Facebook and then stopped. I thought “Oh my! Something is going to happen and I won’t know about it.” I panicked at the thought of missing out on something. It was a fleeting thought.
My life is so much better without Facebook. I am a happier person because I am taking time to connect to myself and to learn what I need. I am enjoying the moments of my life. I’m not going to lie, spending time on Facebook and looking at what everyone else was doing made me always feel like I wasn’t doing enough. Or that I should be further along in my business than I was. I used Facebook as an escape from my perfectionism and yet when I would close it out I would always feel bad about myself. Comparison is a trap!
Now, when I start to procrastinate because I am looking for perfectionism I hit the pause button and ask myself what is really going on.
I use other techniques, like prayer and meditation to get myself through the hard spots.
My biggest a-ha was that I realized what I should really be fearful of missing out on is living MY life, honoring myself, and walking out the plan and purpose for my life.
Words of Encouragement
What I have shared with you is what works for me in my life. It’s not right or wrong, it’s just mine. What works for me may not work for you. We should each find our own way.
What I do hope, by sharing with you my experience and all that I have learned, is that it gives you food for thought (pardon the pun) about your own journey.
And, that it gets you to hit the pause button and allows you to give yourself permission to step out and seek your own answers.
If you’re not sure how to do this, I would love to provide you a supportive and safe environment to explore what it looks like for you. I offer a FREE one hour discovery session. Contact me to schedule yours. I would love to work with you.
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