Let Go Of The Things That No Longer Serve You!
Let it go, let it go. Can't hold it back anymore. Let it go, let it go. Turn away and slam the door. - Idina Menzel (Disney's Frozen)
Last week I shared with you that during my own time of self-reflection I believed that I was being led to abandon my old ways and make room for new ones. It was about releasing and letting go of those things that no longer served me. At the core this is what it was all about and where I will begin today. If you haven’t had a chance to read it make sure you check it out here first.
One of the most difficult things for a person to do it to let something go regardless of how toxic or negative it is. That thing has been in your life for so long that you struggle envisioning your life without it. When you think about letting it go your brain automatically starts to freak out and will begin to rationalize why you shouldn’t let it go.
However, there comes a time when you must say enough is enough and begin to take the steps to release and let go of what no longer serves you. I know this all too well. After I finished writing last week’s blog post and I started working on the journal prompts I shared with you (yes, I do my own work). When I got to #4 R-Release & Let Go I sat with it for a minute.
There was something nagging at me and it took me a while to understand what it was. It was SUGAR!!!!!
Over the last year and a half, I have worked hard to clean up my diet. Slowly, I removed all processed food from my diet. I scaled down my sweet tooth and only indulged once a week. In February of last year, I embarked on the Whole30. Wow! Did I walk away with a new outlook on food and the role it plays in my life. After the Whole30 I removed bread, dairy (except for an occasional ice cream) and sugar from my diet. I felt so much better and more in control of my life. I sustained that until about 7 months ago. Life threw us a curve ball and I was thrusted onto an emotional roller coaster where I indulged myself and my emotions. As much as I tried the slope just got more slippery until about five weeks ago when it crashed and burned. Wipe Out!!!
I sat with the idea of letting sugar go again. It was hard. A lot of emotions come up to include feeling guilty because I let things get out of hand again. It’s tough when you think you had it conquered only to discover that the sugar dragon still lives. But I knew that I physically felt awful. I was exhausted most of the day. I felt like I had the whole world sitting on my shoulders. I had no energy. The worst part of it all is the vicious cycle that has formed; open mouth, input more sugar, continue to feel awful, rinse, repeat. You get where I’m going here. As much as I tried to get it (me) under control it wasn’t working. I had to come up with something to reset my body. Starting Monday, I will embark on my second round of the Whole30.
This week I want to simply inspire you to start the process of letting go of something that is no longer serving you. It is not easy, but it is so worth it and you will be much happier.
If you are up for an amazing journey of freedom, I am here to help you.
The following are the steps that guided me through my own letting go process.
1. Self-Reflection- Take time to connect with yourself. Find some time in your busy schedule. Plan it. Put it on your calendar if you must. It doesn’t have to be a long time. 15 minutes of quiet time goes a long way.
2. Get Clear- What do you want in your life? What do you want more of in your life? What do you want less of in your life? All three of these questions are worth asking yourself. Be honest with yourself. Get really clear about what you want in your life. To make room for those things you want in your life, you’ve got to let go of the stuff that isn’t serving you.
3. What Isn’t Working- Start searching for what isn’t sitting right with you. Don’t push away those feeling that come up. You want to feel them. Trust me, things are going to come up. Like my coach told me, the minute you start this process it is guaranteed all your stuff will come up. That’s okay. You want this. You’ve got to feel those feels.
4. Make a Choice w/Confidence- You are going to know what needs to be let go. Listen to your intuition or that still small voice. Make a move. Let it Go! DO IT WITH CONFIDENCE!
5. Trust Yourself- The second you decide to let it go, your brain will immediately start second guessing the decision. You are going to want to turn back the hands of time and change your mind. Remember, when you let something go that is no longer serving you, you’re making room in your life for something magnificent that will come in and fill that void. Just trust and surrender.
*Bonus: Here is an exercise my coach had me do, make a list of all the objections your brain comes up with when you decide to let it go. Acknowledge them and move on.
6. Don’t quit- The void of letting something go, regardless of how bad it was can be uncomfortable. Have patience. Keep creating space. Stay the course and forging onward so you can design the life you want on your terms.
Words of Encouragement
Letting go of something that no longer serves you can be anything. It can be a relationship, a situation, a place, a thought, a habit. Anything. I want to challenge you to be bold and take authority over your life and that thing in your life that is no longer serving you. Make the decision today to let it go. Trust in yourself that deep down inside you know exactly what needs to be done.
Listen, there is no right or wrong answer about what needs to be let go. There is only your answer. Only you can decide what and when you can let it go. Trust yourself to know the answer. You’ve got this.
Okay, so you’ve tried to go through the process and you’re stuck on making that confident choice to let it go. You just can’t seem to bring yourself to do it. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
What about this makes it difficult to let it go?
How is this effecting my life? For the good? For the bad?
What would my life look like if this wasn’t in it?
What does not letting this go say about me?
What does letting this go say about me?
What small step can I take today to start letting this go?