How Do You Handle The Hard Stuff?
Is it safe to say that regardless of who you are or what you do, we all experience trials in our lives? No one is given a free pass from those difficult blows life throws at us. It isn’t a matter of “if” they show up but “when” they show up. Like it or not, we all experience trouble. So, how do you handle the hard stuff?
I believe we have a choice about how we handle the hard stuff.
We can choose to be a victim to it or we can choose to see it as an opportunity. See, when we are a victim to the hard stuff we tend to fight and resist it. Some people may choose to ignore what is going on around them, bury their head in the sand, and not acknowledge it for what it is. When we do this, I believe we miss out on a valuable lesson.
When we choose to see the hard stuff as an opportunity our whole perspective changes. Seeing the hard stuff as an opportunity allows us to learn and grow. The hard stuff builds character and strength and that character and strength helps us handle the next bit of trouble that comes our way.
Think about the hard stuff as a tree. Every time you go through a struggle your strength and character are being built. Your roots are growing deeper into the ground like that of a tree. The deeper they go the stronger you are. When the wind of the next storm comes, and tries to uproot your tree, it can’t because your roots are thicker and stronger. You, my friend, can stand against the storm.
Here’s a thought. What if we had a plan on how we are going to handle the hard stuff? What if when the hard stuff hit we had some steps that; 1) helped us to choose to see it as an opportunity rather than be a victim of it, and 2) helped us to weather the storm?
Here are some tips for creating an action plan for handling the hard stuff:
1. Choose Joy
Our attitude is everything. Do you see the glass as half full or half empty? Either way, your attitude about it will affect the outcome. Choose joy rather than sorrow when life throws you a punch.
2. Be Grateful
I know what you’re thinking. It is already hard enough to choose joy and now I am asking you to be grateful? Yes, I am. We want to be grateful because of what our struggle is producing in us. Our strength and character are being built and when we come out on the other side of trouble (and we do, I promise you) we are a better version of ourselves.
3. See Opportunity
Remember the hard stuff is an opportunity for growth. Look for ways to turn your troubles into an opportunity to learn and grow the roots of your tree deeper.
4. Pray or Meditate
When you feel the burden of the hard stuff so strong take some time to pray or meditate. This quite time will allow you the opportunity to rest your mind and your heart and gain some comfort. It will help you release some stress and gain a more positive perspective to your situation.
As a self-leadership coach, I teach my clients how to lead themselves. This is important especially during the hard stuff. Creating an action plan on how you will handle the hard stuff is about taking charge of your life (leading yourself). With an action plan for the hard stuff, you are making the conscious choice on how you are going to handle trouble. Rather than reacting to the hard stuff, let’s make the choice to respond to it in a way that honors ourselves.
Whatever you’re going through today, I just want to encourage you and tell you that you can persevere. You are brave and strong and more than a conqueror. You are more than enough and you will have the victory. Stay strong and know that you are growing and getting rooted deeper. You can weather the storm.
Do you have an action plan for how you handle the hard stuff? If so, that is great. I would love to hear it. If you don’t, what are your thoughts about having a plan to handle the hard stuff?
If you don’t have a plan and want one but you find yourself struggling with creating one, I would love to help you.