What do you do when what was once okay in your life isn't okay anymore? Your boat gets rocked. Sometimes your boat gets rocked a little, and sometimes well it will shake you to your core. You have to find your new okay. I had another topic ready for this week's W.O.W Wednesday, but last week my very own boat was rocked a bit, and I was led to share it with you instead. Most of you know that I have a chocolate lab. Her name is Bella, she will be seven next week and has been ke

*Disclaimer: I am not a mental health profession. The contents of this post are based on my research, experience, and opinion. If you or someone you know is experiencing mental health issues, I encourage you to seek help. Therefore, I say to you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? (Matthew 6:25) Fear, anxiety, worry, they are all in

This week I am wrapping up Spring Clean Your Life with a look at attitude. What attitude are you bringing to yourself? Your life? Others? Do you need an Attitude Adjustment? Have you ever had a time in your life when you decided to buy a new car? You have a particular model that catches your eye. Once you have decided in your mind that this is the car you want you to start to see more and more of those same cars on the? Before that, you never saw them. Or did you? There's an

Close your eyes. Imagine that you are standing outside. There is a slight breeze. You can smell the fragrance of flowers in the air. You can feel the sunlight on your face. You are standing in front of the most beautiful garden you have ever seen. There are plants and flowers of every kind in the garden. The flowers are in various stages of blooming. The colors are amazing. The floor of the garden is covered in a beautiful ground cover of lush green vines with purple flowers.

As winter begins to let go and make way for spring what do you need to let go of and create space for? Every spring, people make time to spring clean their houses, closets, drawers, garages, the list goes on. But how many people take time to Spring Clean their lives? This month on W.O.W Wednesday, we are going to take a look at a few areas of our lives and do some spring cleaning. The first up is a relationship review. We are all relational beings. We crave the need to belon

This is the last week of Women’s History Month. And while it is nice to have a month to call our own where we have an opportunity to celebrate the inspirational contributions women have made to the world. As well as take time to reflect on where we’re going, how we’re going to get there and the challenges that lie ahead. While we’ve come a long way, the struggle for equality is real and the issues that still face women remain formidable. As we continue to move forward, what d

I have been thinking a lot about what it means to be your own hero. I have seen many women stuck in a life, career, relationship, or situation they don’t like or want. They spend their life waiting for someone to save them. If you are waiting for someone to show up and save you from whatever it is you don't like or want, you will be waiting a long time. The person with the most power in your life to make the changes you want will always be the person looking back at you in th

What does it mean to “find your voice”? To understand what it means to "find your voice," I think we first have to look at what it means to “lose your voice”. During my research for my dissertation I discovered that during adolescence, girls go through a relational crisis where they give up their voice and abandon who they are to meet the expectations of others. Especially those they have a close relationship with. See, as young girls, we received mixed signals. In one moment

How many times have you walked away from a situation less than thrilled about the way you reacted? Later on, when you’ve had time to process what happened, you replay the event over and over in your head and come up with a million other ways you could have or should have reacted? You think about all of the things you could or should have said. This is all too common. If you are tired of walking away feeling like you could of or should have done things differently than the tim

You’ve got big dreams for your life. But something is standing in the way of those big dreams. That something is a big WHAT IF? Do you worry? Do you lie in bed at night playing the GREAT GAME of WHAT IF? What if this happens? What if that happens? You play the movie reel over and over in your head of all the bad things that can happen. The thoughts on the other end of the WHAT IF paralyze you to make any moves in your life. It’s a vicious cycle and it can be hard to break the

What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Do you check your phone? Do you do a quick scroll through your newsfeeds to see if you missed anything while you were sleeping? Do you pick up your phone to check a message and suddenly find yourself scrolling through your social newsfeeds and before you know it minutes maybe even an hour or hours have passed by. How many times during the day do you pick your phone up at random to make sure you didn’t miss a text or something s

Welcome to FebYOUary! I am dedicating the month of FebYOUary on W.O.W Wednesday to helping you reconnect with one of the most important relationships in your life. The relationship with yourself. If you are in your 20's or 30's, investing in yourself is the last thing on your mind. You might even be wondering what does that mean? Your life is like a roller coaster. Somedays you're up. Somedays your down. Somedays you are up and down. You are busy, overwhelmed, and stressed ou

The last three weeks we have been exploring what I like to call the foundational steps to create a life that means something to you on your terms. Step 1: Awareness- stepping outside of yourself and taking an objective and non-judgmental view of your life to identify exactly where you are. Step 2: Acceptance- learning to accept that where you’re at is exactly where you’re supposed to be. Step 3: Be Intentional- understanding that you have the choice to decide what you want yo

Do you feel like you are surviving rather than thriving in life? Do you feel like the life you wanted is so far removed from where you are? You had big dreams and plans for your life but somewhere along the way things just didn’t turn out the way you thought they would? Now you’re sitting at the crossroads trying to decide what to do next. You’re wondering how can you create a life that means something to you on your terms? In the last two weeks, you've explored 1) Awareness

What if I told you that where you are is exactly where you need to be? Would you believe me? Could you “Accept” that this was true for you? Last week on the blog I shared that creating a life that means something to you on your terms is about digging deeper for your purpose or calling in life that is driven by your own desires and values. The first step to this is AWARENESS. Awareness is the foundation for change. The key to creating awareness is stepping outside of yourself

Imagine sitting in your room as a teenager. Think about the dreams and plans you had for your life. The little plans and big plans that you had for your life. All the things you wanted to do to change the world. Fast forward to this moment right now. Although you may have checked off many of the things on your list, you still have that nagging feeling that you just want to be further along in your life than you are today. You had a timeline in your head of where you wanted to

Happy New Year! Your vision for 2019 is the destination that you visualize and want to achieve but the path is unknown. This is where your goals come in. They help you set the path for the rightful achievement of your vision and act as milestones along the way. Today is the day that you put a stake in the ground and create your vision for 2019. Imagine it’s January 2nd 2019 and you’re looking back on the year. What did you do to create a life that means something to you on yo

There is something new and exciting about a brand new year. A clean slate – a blank canvas. You're an artist with a paintbrush and a palate of paint ready to dream and create new possibilities and opportunities for your life. It is time to capture the magic of the season and start setting those personal and professional goals to create a life that means something to you on your terms. As you embark on 2019, it is important to take some time to reflect and assess the past year

On the twelfth day of Christmas, my life coach gave to me… Who would you be when you accomplished your goals? Take a moment to visualize yourself one year from now. You’ve accomplished your goal(s) for 2019. Who would you be? What would you be thinking, feeling, and doing? Now think about the person you are today. As you think about the same goal what are you thinking, feeling, and doing? You have just identified where you are now and where you want to be. Over the course of

On the eleventh day of Christmas, my life coach gave to me… What does it take to embrace uncertainty? Uncertainty is uncomfortable. You are wired to want to control your environment. Your brain is hardwired to assess and combat risk. Are you in flight or fight? Your mind doesn’t know the difference between running from a bear and deciding if you should leave your job and start your own business, or run a marathon, or insert your goal here. To your brain, they are all the same